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The courageous battle of Tika Hick

Tika Hick and her fiancé David Potts had a very special reason for coming to Maui a few weeks back.  It was their last hurrah before she was to rid her body of the cancer that had been slowly taking over.  Following their return, she was to have a double mastectomy and hopefully be done with cancer. 

But after a freak accident, Tika was alone in this battle the two of them fought together.

It was an act of God that dictated what would come to pass for Tika and David of San Anselmo.  The story was all over the news – “Marin County man missing after fall into Maui blowhole”.  Stories thereafter had witnesses describing a scene where a man was too close to the blowhole and was swept in and out to the ocean  on July 9th, 2011 when a rogue wave crashed down on him.  His body was never found, and Tika had to make the long flight home without him.  Now she is left to raise their infant son, Indigo, on her own, rejoicing and grieving as she sees the man she loves in the face of their child.

It’s unthinkable the loss this family is suffering, what Tika is going through right now.  And learning of their struggles before the accident, it seems so harsh that this woman lost her best friend and confidante in just a moment.  The couple had lost their home a short while back.  Weeks after this, Tika was diagnosed with breast cancer.  But in it all, she knew it would all be ok because she had her family – David and Indigo. 

And then, David was gone.

“David died just a couple days ago, and people said there’s no damn way you can go through surgery now.  And my response is, screw that.  I can go through surgery, and I’m going to be cancer free on Wednesday.  So you can’t tell me I’m not going to go through surgery.  I have to.  I have to for my baby.  I have to for me.  I have to live with a damn tumor in me?  I don’t want to live with a tumor inside my body.  It’s trying to take over my body.  It needs to be got rid of, I need to get it out of my body,” Tika told Michael Franti of Spearhead in a recent interview with him.  “And to be honest, right now in all this chaos and heartbreak, it’d be nice to have the pain of my body match the pain that I’m feeling in my heart.  It will, like, even out…  Also, just having surgery sounds relaxing.  Somebody gets to put me to sleep, and I have to sleep for hours on end.  To have surgery?  That sounds pretty good right now.”

It is said that we aren’t given more than we can handle.  I cannot even comprehend the strength Tika has to have been handed so much all at once.  Many more would buckle under this intense amount of devastation.  But through her tears and pain, Tika is determined to keep going and be strong for her son.  And that includes being cancer-free. 

Her surgery was on Wednesday, July 20th

Whenever I think of things being too stressful, or that I have too much on my plate than I can handle, I’m going to remember Tika.  Here’s a woman who lost her home, was diagnosed with breast cancer, and then lost her fiancé and the father of her child in a very short period of time.  

Tika’s story is one of devastation.  But it is also a story of strength. 

She is still getting up out of bed.  She is still surviving.   And faced with life’s greatest hardships, she is determined to be strong.  Compared to Tika, I have never suffered.  And being grateful for all the gifts and blessings of my life has taken on a whole new meaning. 

I have no right to complain.

Michael Franti met Tika a few weeks back at the Harmony Festival.  And he was amazed by her strength then as she told him of her fight with breast cancer.  When David died, he took it upon himself to set up a way for others to contribute to Tika and help her financially as she heals. 

You can donate to the cause by visiting Michael Franti’s website at www.michaelfranti.com, or you can go directly to the PayPal account by CLICKING HERE.

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Hope 4 Ella Day

Every morning, families rise with the sun and prepare for the day. Kids wake up and stall, having to be reminded constantly to get dressed, eat breakfast, pack up their school bags, make lunch, and for heaven’s sake, go get your shoes on! We are on them from the time they are up until the time they go to bed. We are tripping over their things in the living room. We are encouraging them to stay seated with the TV off until their homework is done. We are fixing them dinner only to have them turn their nose up at it. We are carting them from activity to activity, pleading with them to please stop picking on their brother, and don’t have the chance to collapse until they are finally in bed.

Somewhere in Sebastopol, one mom is wishing so much that she could endure all these tribulations with her daughter. You see, while we are taking for granted all these little trials our kids put us through, her daughter is lying in a coma, as she has been off and on for more than 55 days. Over the summer, 7 year old Ella was riddled with flu-like symptoms and sleepless nights. Her family had her tested for everything before finally taking her in for a CT scan. The results showed that Ella had developed a large cancerous tumor in her brain. The doctors were able to remove most of the tumor, but warned the family that there was a slight chance she might slip into a coma as a result. Most people are alert within two days. Ella was not. And her family misses her terribly. To make things harder, Ella’s body still possesses cancer cells that were not killed with her first round of radiation. Soon she will be starting a second round of radiation.

Of course, nothing could help relieve this family of the pain they are going through besides their daughter’s miraculous recovery. But Santa Rosa Community Market is looking to relieve some of this burden on their shoulders by helping them out financially. They have declared this Friday, October 22nd, Hope for Ella Day. On this day, they are donating 10% of their proceeds to the family’s fund to help pay for the mounting costs of their daughter’s treatment. This is just one of many ways Santa Rosa Community Market, as a not-for-profit organization, has stepped up to the plate to serve their community in whatever ways they can.

For more information on Hope 4 Ella Day, visit SR Community Market’s website at www.srcommunitymarket.com/hope4elladay.html. To read up more on Ella, please visit her family’s heartwrenching blog that details her battle against a cancer that doesn’t understand she’s just a little girl: hope4ella.com.

To donate directly towards hotel, food and medical costs, please send checks to Deborah and Glen Stewart: 11002 Peaks Pike Rd. Sebastopol, CA, 95472. Any amount helps!

Hope For Ella Day will be all day on Friday October 22nd during business hours. Community Market is located at 1899 Mendocino Ave, Santa Rosa.