Using porn to discuss “the birds and bees”

Bringing up “the talk” is always is always a fun experience, isn’t it?  I mean, you get to talk about body changes, hormonal changes, and then, of course, THE DEED itself.  If your child is anything like mine, they were running for the hills before you even got to the good part.  And being the diligent parent you are, you probably said things like “it’s natural”, “there’s nothing wrong with sex”, or even started it with “when two people love each other very much….”

But Jack Buckner, a dad in Texas, apparently didn’t have the discussion tools to properly teach his kids about the birds and the bees.  So he did what many parents do, he used visual aids.  But instead of books that describe things in an educational sense or one of those awkward 60’s movies that uses cartoon images to innocently explain where babies come from, he used what he felt best described the act of two people expressing their love.

Porn.

Albeit, Buckner was drunk at 3am when he sat his 8 and 9 year old daughter down to study the act of intercourse, forcing them to watch the video even when they tried to turn away.  However, it’s hard to believe any parent would actually think this was a good idea.  Needless to say, when the mother of the kids (his ex-wife) found out about this 3am impromptu sex education course, she contacted the authorities and had him arrested.  But in the state of Texas it’s not illegal for children to view porn if a parent is in the room.  Somehow, this seems to bring up a whole slew of other problems that Texas might want to address and change….  With the case in jeopardy of being dismissed, the lawyer slapped a new charge on the Texan Dad of the Year that might have a significant impact on how any parent teaches their child about sex – child endangerment for showing a video to children that might “put them in imminent danger of mental impairment”.

Think about that when having the sex talk with your child.  If your child is uncomfortable about their mother or father describing anatomy or intercourse, it might cause them mental impairment.  And if the parent decides an actual educational video is best for teaching the birds and the bees, hold the phone.  That could be a punishable offense.  Sure, it’s not porn, but it definitely falls under the category of child endangerment if this charge goes through.  Same goes for allowing them to see a movie that gives them nightmares, reading them a story that makes them cry, or allowing anything to happen to them that might give them an extreme emotion that changes their way of seeing the world.

I don’t see any instance of using porn as an educational tool a worthy argument for a parent to make.  And this dad has some serious lessons to learn about what is and isn’t appropriate for a child to be around.  And yes, I do believe that he deserves some serious repercussions and lessons in parenting for his severe lack of common sense.  But if this is the argument that is used against him, then we’re all screwed.

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6 thoughts on “Using porn to discuss “the birds and bees””

  1. Not to be all “state-ist” or anything, but why are all the ridiculous stories coming out of Texas? Some people are just idiots.

  2. I do remember my very first “birds and bees” talk. It was between my mom and me. She noticed that I had a huge crush on my babysitter. She gave me the talk without any visual aids. About two years later, my dad gave me the “birds and bees” talk. He didn’t do it with visual aids. I learned visual aids from my friends and TV.

    Two things, I noticed from your blog.

    First, I can see what the dad in Texas was wrong. He was drunk and showing the kids porn. I agree with you that it was out of line. He shouldn’t do while he was in a drunken state of mind. If he wasn’t drinking at 2am and showing the kids porn then I would be totally fine with it. Some parents are really having a hard time teaching kids about sex because they don’t know the right words for the private parts and some think it against their religion. I am sure he has a reason for showing it. We are in a generation where some parents are really busy with their job and kids are learning about sex through friends, TV, and the Internet. These kids are learning in single digit age these days. Is it frightening? Well, yes and no. Yes, if the parents don’t teach them with the proper tools. No, if the parents do teach them with the proper tools.

    Second, the laws in Texas and other states are really out of line. I am not sure how lawmakers came up with these ideas.

    I am not a parent but I know one day I will be. If I want to teach my kids the “birds and bees “talk. I would make sure that I want to talk to my wife first on how we approach the subject.
    I hope this dad would get probation and see his kids from time to time. I will know for sure that that his kids would appreciate this when they get older.

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