3 thoughts on “The big name change dilemma”

  1. I’m so pissed off right now. The work your editor’s generation did was about CHOICE and feeling the freedom to make decisions without fear of irrational judgment from extremists on either side of the issue. The feminist movement was supposed be about CHOICE!

    I have no professional career attached to my name so I can’t offer any sound, tried advice in that area. But if I could, my advice would be the same.

    All I can say is follow your gut. From your writings, I know you have good instincts and pragmastim and you must do what is best for your and your family. Your writing will shine on its own, not because of the surname attached to it.

    I am at peace having my husband’s surname, not because I’m property, but because we endeavored to build something together as a cohesive team and a team needs a name… his, mine, or otherwise. That is the culture we created and live in and I’m totally good with it.

    How dare they steal your joy from you! That is wrong in so many ways I can’t list them.

    Congrats on your marriage! 🙂

  2. Oh, I forgot to write this in all my fury.

    I like Sigur Ros, too. How funny there are two people in Sonoma County that know Sigur Ros!

  3. Zoe!!! I am so thrilled you visited me here! Thank you so much for your words. I woke up this morning adamant that I can’t let someone else’s opinion affect something that holds such meaning for me. So what if I change my name? A few missing years under a different name is nothing compared to a lifetime I’ll have under my new name. So there. And it didn’t even occur to me how offensive it was that the fight for women’s rights meant I should act a certain way. It’s totally opposite what the fight for our rights was all about.

    And Sigur Ros is awesome! Perfect for those times when you just need to unwind and relax. There’s a few more fans here in Sonoma County too.

    So glad to hear from you!

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