In the final weeks of summer vacation (what?? It’s over already? Noooo….), my kids are spending time with their father. For 10 glorious miserable days, my kids are missing from my house as they do God knows what 3 hours from here. And me? I’m missing from my house too. Mr. W and I are playing house, and relishing the fact that we have no kids counting down the minutes till our children are home (his son is at his mother’s house). So obviously, that means we are living large while living it up! It’s party time, our time to dance and to paint the town red! It’s time to stay out late and travel to exotic places! It’s time to do all those things we want to do but can’t when the kids are around.
Which pretty much means that we are eating quiet dinners, watching TV, and then going to bed. Oh, and I managed to beat my high score on Bejeweled.
So when did we get boring? Honestly, the kids are coming home in less than a week, and I have spent most of my downtime doing absolutely nothing. And part of me feels bad that I’m not living it up more. I mean what would I be doing if my kids were here? I’d be eating dinner, watching TV, and then going to bed. But in between all of that, I’d be doing laundry, cooking, grocery shopping… When the kids are here I am breaking up fights and thinking of things for them to do. I’m constantly picking up after them. I’m on the go from the moment I wake up to the minute I lay down to go to bed.
This week it’s been nice to be in a clean home. The quiet in the house has been fantastic. And most of all, it’s been a dream to do….nothing.
Sure, when the kids are back, I might wish I had made better use of my time. It’s about to be a really long school year as they skip going to their dad’s house due to the 3 hour drive, and I’m about to say goodbye to my regular breaks from being a mom as our schedule triples itself. I may wish I had done more social outings, or traveled to more local hotspots, or even took some days off of work to get even farther away. I may wish I had danced more and really painted the town red.
But honestly? I’m not sorry about how I spent my time. It’s been great to unwind and relax, recollecting my bearings before the kids come back home so that I can be a better mom. And truth be told, it hasn’t all been the day-in or day-out. In our kid-free days we’ve gone out to lunch, I’ve done more writing, I’ve found new hobbies I want to try out, and we’ve even tried out a couple fantastic culinary creations.
But yes, for the most part we have relaxed. And in that process, I’ve lost the feelings of mom-burnout as I make laziness an artform. I even miss my kids, and look forward to having them home again. Eventually.
Until then, I think I’ll just relax.
When your kids are away from the house, do you live it up….or lay low?